`l Can`t Decide Which University To Go To` Hello Auntie, I hope you are well. I am a teenager studying in grade 12 and the only son of my parents. My father died two years ago.

I intend to study at the top university of Pakistan. This will require spending a large amount of money. At the same time, I am also considering studying at another university, which is at a closer distance from my city. I am interested in that university too and I have a lot of information about that university. My friends are also undergraduates there.

Meanwhile, I don`t have enough information about my dream university. However, as it is a top university, I want to study there even though it is also far from my city. I haven`t consulted anyone regarding this issue except my mother. She has permitted me to study where I want. But I also want your advice about which step to take.

Should I move to my dream university because it offers a good scope or should I try for the other university I am interested in and also know everything about? Distracted Student Dear Distracted Student, Thank you for reaching out. This is an overwhelming decision, given the weight of your aspirations and the responsibility you carry as the only son. Thank you for thinking so deeply about your future and for considering both your dreams and your reality. It shows wisdom beyond your years.

Losing your father must have been incredibly difficult, and it`s wonderful how you and your mother are supporting each other.

Your mother`s willingness to let you choose yourpathsays a lotabouthertrustinyou and the fact that she wants your happiness.

It`s natural to feel torn between your dream university and the one closer to home.

Your dream university offers excellent opportunities. The reputation and network could open doors for you. However, it comes with challenges, such as the financial strain, being away from home and also whether it will meet your expectations. On the other hand, the university closer to you, where you already have friends, offers possibly a less stressful environment.

Think about what truly matters to you. Is it the prestige of the top university, or is it the comfort and lower financial burden of the other university? Both choices have their merits and neither is wrong. You have to make a decision that aligns with your goals and values.

Reach out to students from your dream university. Ask them about their experiences and whether they felt the institution lived up to its reputation. This will help you gain a clearer picture. Also, think about how each choice will affect your mother both emotionally and financially.

Whatever path you choose, remember that success is not solely determined by the institution you attend. Both universities can be the gate to a bright future.

Whatever you decide, know that your mother (and I am sure many who know your story including me!) will be cheering you on.

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