`Heartbreak Has Left My Friend Suicidal` Hello Auntie, Hope you are well. I`m an artist in my mid2Os. My query is that my friend is feeling very depressed after his engagement came to naught. He attempted suicide attempt as well but, thankfully, he was rescued. He is literally going through an unprecedented trauma that has left him unable to sleep or focus on anything, and made him totally uninterested in every aspect of life.

Despite all this, he still dearly wants the presence of that very person in his life who was the source of the heartbreak. Kindly suggest how I can help him to get out of this traumatic situation. And how should I counsel him so that he may return to normal life and find some respite? Feeling Stuck Dear Feeling Stuck, Your friend is going through a very painful time and, if you`re feeling stuck and unsure about how to help him, it is totally understandable. The most important thing right now is to encourage him to seek professional help. Since he has already attempted to take his life, this is a crisis situation. A therapist or psychiatrist can provide the kind of support he truly needs. While you can be there for him, remember that this is bigger than what you or another friend can handle alone.

Right now, all your friend really needs is to know that he is not alone, so make the effort to keep reaching out to him, even if he doesn`t respond much. Just knowing someone cares about you can be a huge comfort. Whenever he wants to talk, you should listen without judgement.

Let him express his feelings, even if you cannot relate to what he is telling you. Do not tell him to `move on` or `find someone else.` That kind of advice even if you don`t intend to hurt him will make him feel more misunderstood. Instead, let him grieve at his own pace.

Depression and heartbreak can make even the smallest of tasks feel impossible. If he is struggling to eat, sleep and do other tasks, you can offer to help him in small ways. Bring him a meal that you know he enjoys, go for a walk with him or watch a movie together. He may be reluctant to hang out with you at first, but gentle encouragement can help him reconnect with the world around him.

At the same time, pay close attention to any warning signs. If he talks about feeling hopeless or withdrawing completely, don`t hesitate to involve someone who can intervene, such as a trusted family member, a mental health professional or, in more serious cases, emergency help.

Healing takes time and grief is never a straight path. Right now, he needs kindness, patience and professional support. You are already doing something incredibly important by being there for him. Thank you for being a true friend. The world needs more sincere people like you. Just don`t forget that you don`t have to carry this burden alone.

Disclaimer: If you or someone you know is in crisis and/or feeling suicidal, please go to your nearest emergency room and seek medical help immediately.

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